Using your hands, palms, fingers is a fine art that great lovers master. Great sex usually depends on great touching, so the best lovemaking partners find out what kind of touch works and doesn’t work.
This is especially true when touching the most intimate areas. Everyone feels these areas differently, so what is firm for one lover is gentle for another, what’s fast for me might be slow for you, and so on.
Sometimes you can read your lover’s responses and be guided to good lovemaking practices. Sometimes, though, something isn’t ideal and at the time it wasn’t comfortable to correct course without risking the spontaneity of the moment.
But afterward, be courageous enough to say it was great, and here’s how it could be even a little better. The few minutes of discomfort for a little loving feedback will reward you from then on with lots of great sex.